I’m currently weaning my 9 month old daughter …and I’m doing most of the whining.
Actually, after tonight we may be tied. I’m whining because, if I’m being honest, I have no idea what I’m doing. She’s whining because, well…she wants the boob.
So, after admitting that I don’t know what the heck I’m doing how on earth do I think I can give advice? Because, every advice column/website/forum/discussion board I’ve come across spews the same old tired advice and since it’s all crap I figured I would give the REAL DEAL on weaning.
First of all, it’s harder than childbirth. OK, maybe that’s dramatic, but it has been one of the more difficult parts of parenting. It’s as if your child is going through some type of withdrawal and you’re just along for the emotionally grueling ride.
Plus, not only is it a trying time for baby, but it’s pretty painful for mommy too. Swollen, engorged, rock hard boobies are no one’s idea of a good time.
However, with all that said, I think I’ve figured the whole thing out (how presumptious of me!). It will NEVER be easy. It’s not meant to be. It’s a major disruption in a child’s life and change is rarely easy…even for adults. So, my biggest piece of advice is to be PATIENT. I’m only a few weeks in and I ignorantly thought it would be easy, breezy and that we’d be done by now. Now I realize there’s a long road ahead and that’s totally fine.
I could tell you to wean gradually. Or have someone else give your baby bottles instead of you. I could even say place a hot towel over your achy breast. Or suggest replacing your boob with a pacifier. Or any other useless rhetoric you’ve probably read a million times, but at the end of the day you will find what works best for you and your baby through trial and error. Period.
My only advice would be to have patience. Easier said than done, believe me, I know. But, I know all to well that stressing about the situation will only make it worse. Just think, you’re not the first woman to wean and you won’t be the last. No baby nurses forever and even if you suck at weaning your baby is bound to get off the tit…eventually…